いじける

• Reading: いじける
• Romaji: ijikeru
• Pronunciation: /i.dʑi.ke.ɾɯ/

Meaning

To become timid or withdrawn; to sulk; to cower; to develop a warped or twisted personality due to harsh treatment.

A Group 2 (ichidan) verb. いじける describes a psychological state of withdrawal or sulkiness — typically the result of repeated negative experiences, scolding, or neglect. Unlike 萎縮する (which focuses on intimidation), いじける also carries the connotation of a sour or self-pitying emotional state. Often used in discussions of child development, describing children who become withdrawn or emotionally guarded. The adjective いじけた (sulky, warped) is also common.

Examples

1. 叱られるたびにいじけてしまう子どもには、温かい励ましが効果的だ。 For a child who withdraws every time they are scolded, warm encouragement is most effective.
2. 長引く失業でいじけていた彼が、友人の一言で再び前を向き始めた。 He had become withdrawn after prolonged unemployment, but a single word from a friend prompted him to look forward again.
3. いじけた態度でいると周囲から距離を置かれ、孤立を深めるだけだ。 Adopting a sulky attitude will only cause others to keep their distance and deepen one's isolation.

Usage Guide

Context: psychology, family, education, daily life

Tone: negative

Origin & History

Of uncertain etymology; likely derived from the stem いじ (spirit, disposition) combined with a suffix indicating a change of state. The sense of a personality becoming twisted or withdrawn under pressure is the core meaning.

Cultural Context

Era: Contemporary

Generation: All ages

Social background: General