……，好吗 / 对吗 (tag question with 吗)

• 拼音: hǎo ma / duì ma
• 结构: Statement + ，好吗 / 对吗 / 是吗 / 可以吗？
• 汉字拆解: 好 = 女 (woman) + 子 (child)

含义

A statement followed by 好吗, 对吗, 是吗, or 可以吗 forms a gentle tag question that seeks confirmation or permission. It is softer than A-not-A tags and often used in polite requests.

Tag questions with 吗 work similarly to those with A-not-A tags but carry a softer, sometimes more formal tone. 好吗 and 可以吗 are used when making requests or proposals: 你帮我拿一下，好吗？(Could you hold this for me, okay?). 对吗 and 是吗 seek confirmation: 你是小李，对吗？(You're Xiao Li, right?). The distinction from A-not-A tags is subtle: 好吗 feels gentler and more deferential than 好不好, making it more suitable for talking to strangers, elders, or in professional contexts. 可以吗 is especially polite and is often used in service situations. These tags are sentence-final and always carry rising intonation. They can also express mild surprise when the speaker has just learned something: 你要走了，是吗？(You're leaving, is that right?).

例句

1. 请你小声一点，好吗？
2. 会议三点开始，对吗？
3. 你就是新来的同事，是吗？

用法指南

语境: spoken, everyday, formal

语气: polite

正确说法

• 我们换个时间讨论，好吗？
• 这份报告明天交，可以吗？
• 你说的是上个月的事，对吗？
• 听说你要调到北京了，是吗？

错误说法

• 你帮我，好吗好吗？(Do not repeat the tag for emphasis — in Chinese this sounds childish rather than polite, use 行吗 or 可以吗 for stronger politeness) → 你帮我一下，好吗？
• 你快走，好吗！(Using 好吗 with an imperative and exclamation mark contradicts its gentle questioning function — this sounds sarcastic or impatient) → 你快走吧。

起源与历史

These tag question forms arose from appending common evaluative words (好, 对, 是, 可以) with the question particle 吗 to statement endings. This pattern became standard in modern Mandarin as a polite way to soften requests and confirm information.

文化背景

世代: All ages

社会背景: Universal