元カレ
Meaning: Ex-boyfriend — a former male romantic partner.
元カレ is a casual, widely-used abbreviation of 元彼氏 (moto kareshi). It's used freely in everyday conversation among friends. Talking about 元カレ is common in Japanese dating discussions, and the term carries no particular stigma — it's simply a neutral descriptor for a past relationship.
Examples
- 元カレとばったり会って気まずかった。 偶然碰到前男友,好尴尬。Me crucé con mi ex novio por casualidad y fue bastante incómodo.전 남친이랑 우연히 마주쳐서 어색했어.
- 元カレの話ばっかりする子って正直めんどくさい。 总是提前男友的女生,说实话挺烦的。Sinceramente, las chicas que no paran de hablar de su ex son un poco pesadas.전 남친 얘기만 하는 애는 솔직히 피곤해.
- 元カレのSNS見ちゃうのやめたい。 好想戒掉去看前男友社交媒体的习惯。Quiero dejar de mirar las redes sociales de mi ex.전 남친 SNS 보는 거 그만하고 싶어.
Pronunciation
/mo.to ka.ɾe/
Usage Guide
Context: friends, casual conversation, social media
Tone: casual, matter-of-fact
✓ Do Say
- 元カレとはもう連絡取ってないよ。 (I'm not in contact with my ex anymore.)我跟前男友已经不联系了。Ya no tengo contacto con mi ex.전 남친이랑은 이제 연락 안 해. (전 남친이랑은 이제 연락 안 하고 있어.)
- 元カレに偶然会ったらどうする? (What would you do if you ran into your ex?)如果偶然碰到前男友你会怎么办?¿Qué harías si te cruzaras con tu ex?전 남친을 우연히 만나면 어떡할 거야? (전 남친이랑 우연히 마주치면 어쩔 거야?)
✗ Don't Say
- 新しいパートナーの前で元カレの話を長くするのはNG (Going on about your ex in front of your new partner is a bad move)在新对象面前一直聊前男友的事情是大忌Hablar largo y tendido de tu ex delante de tu nueva pareja es un error.새로운 파트너 앞에서 전 남친 얘기를 길게 하는 것은 NG (새 연인 앞에서 전 남친 이야기를 늘어놓는 건 금물이다)
Common Mistakes
- Using the full 元彼氏 in casual conversation — 元カレ is the standard casual form and sounds more natural among friends
Origin & History
Abbreviation of 元彼氏 (moto kareshi, former boyfriend). 元 (moto) means 'former/ex-' and カレ is short for 彼氏 (kareshi, boyfriend). Became the standard casual form through everyday conversation.
Cultural Context
Era: Modern abbreviation, established since the 1990s
Generation: All ages
Social background: Universal
Regional notes: Used across all of Japan. The standard casual way to refer to an ex-boyfriend.
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