Taking it slow
意味: Progressing a romantic relationship at a careful, unhurried pace to avoid rushing into commitment.
Taking it slow means not rushing the typical relationship milestones — meeting parents, saying 'I love you,' moving in, etc. It's often said by people who've been hurt before or who want to build a strong foundation. In American dating, it can be genuine or a gentle way to say 'I'm not sure about you yet.'
例文
- We're taking it slow. We've only been dating for a month. 我们在慢慢来。才约会一个月呢。Nos lo estamos tomando con calma. Solo llevamos un mes saliendo.私たち、ゆっくり進めてるの。まだ付き合って1ヶ月だから。우리는 천천히 가고 있어. 아직 사귄 지 한 달밖에 안 됐으니까.
- After my last breakup, I want to take things slow with the next person. 上次分手之后,我想跟下一个人慢慢来。Después de mi última ruptura, quiero ir despacio con la próxima persona.前の失恋の後、次の人とはゆっくり進めたいと思ってる。지난번 이별 후에는 다음 사람과 천천히 가고 싶어.
- She said she wants to take it slow, which I respect. No pressure. 她说想慢慢来,我尊重她的想法。不给她压力。Ella dijo que quiere ir despacio, y yo lo respeto. Sin presiones.彼女がゆっくりしたいって言ったから、それを尊重してる。プレッシャーはかけない。그녀가 천천히 가고 싶다고 해서 존중하고 있어. 부담 주지 않을 거야.
発音
使い方ガイド
場面: early dating, relationship discussions
トーン: cautious, respectful
✓ 正しい言い方
- I want to take things slow.我想慢慢来。Quiero ir despacio.ゆっくり進めたいんだ。천천히 가고 싶어.
- We're taking it slow and seeing where it goes.我们在慢慢来,走一步看一步。Nos lo estamos tomando con calma y viendo qué pasa.私たちはゆっくり進めて、どうなるか様子を見てるの。우리는 천천히 가면서 어떻게 되는지 보고 있어.
✗ 間違った言い方
- If someone says 'let's take it slow' and you keep pushing for more, you're not respecting boundaries如果对方说'我们慢慢来'而你一直催促,那就是不尊重对方的边界Si alguien dice 'vamos despacio' y tú sigues presionando para más, no estás respetando sus límites相手が「ゆっくりしよう」と言っているのにもっと先に進めようとするのは、境界線を尊重していないこと상대가 '천천히 하자'고 했는데 계속 더 많은 걸 요구하면 경계를 존중하지 않는 것이다
起源と歴史
The phrase has roots in general English (to proceed cautiously) but became a staple of American dating vocabulary in the 1970s-80s, coinciding with the rise of therapy culture and relationship self-help books like 'Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus' (1992). It gained renewed currency in the 2010s dating app era, where 'taking it slow' became a standard Tinder/Hinge profile signal and a frequently discussed topic on relationship podcasts.
文化的背景
Era: Modern
Generation: All ages
Social background: Universal
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