The talking stage
Meaning: The early phase of getting to know someone romantically, before officially dating.
The talking stage is that period where you're texting constantly, maybe going on dates, but you're not 'together' yet. It can last anywhere from days to months. Many people find it exciting; others find it agonizing. It's become a recognized step in the modern dating process, especially among younger Americans.
Examples
- We're in the talking stage — it's going well but we haven't made it official yet. 我们还在互相了解的阶段——进展不错,但还没正式确定关系。Estamos en la fase de conocernos — va bien pero aún no lo hemos hecho oficial.今お互いを知っていく段階で、順調だけどまだ正式には付き合ってない。지금 서로 알아가는 단계야——잘 되고 있는데 아직 공식적이진 않아.
- The talking stage is the worst part of dating. Just tell me if you like me or not. 暧昧期是恋爱中最难熬的阶段。直接告诉我你喜不喜欢我不就好了。La fase de tanteo es la peor parte de ligar. Solo dime si te gusto o no.この「様子見期間」が恋愛で一番辛い。好きなのかどうかはっきりしてほしい。이 '썸 단계'가 연애에서 제일 힘들어. 좋아하는지 아닌지 그냥 말해줘.
- They were in the talking stage for three months before he finally asked her out. 他们暧昧了三个月,他才终于正式约她。Estuvieron en la fase de conocerse durante tres meses antes de que él por fin se le declarara.3ヶ月間お互いを探り合った後、ようやく彼が告白した。3개월간 서로 탐색하다가 그가 드디어 고백했어.
Pronunciation
Usage Guide
Context: dating, texting, relationship discussions
Tone: casual, sometimes anxious
✓ Do Say
- We're in the talking stage.我们还在暧昧期。Estamos en la fase de conocernos.今、お互いを知っていく段階なんだ。우리 지금 썸 단계야.
- How long were you guys in the talking stage?你们暧昧了多久?¿Cuánto tiempo estuvisteis en la fase de tanteo?二人のトーキングステージはどのくらいだった?너희 둘 썸 단계 얼마나 오래 했어?
✗ Don't Say
- Don't use for established couples — it specifically refers to the pre-relationship phase不要用于已确定关系的情侣——它专指正式恋爱之前的阶段No lo uses para parejas establecidas — se refiere específicamente a la fase previa a la relaciónすでに付き合っているカップルには使わない——交際前の段階を指す表現이미 사귀는 커플에게는 사용하지 않는다 — 구체적으로 연애 이전 단계를 가리킨다
Origin & History
Became common in the late 2010s as modern dating created more informal pre-relationship phases. Reflects how texting and social media have extended the getting-to-know-you period.
Cultural Context
Era: Late 2010s onwards
Generation: Gen Z, younger Millennials
Social background: Universal
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