Moving too fast

American Slang Term American ★★★★★ Very Common informal
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Meaning: Progressing a relationship at an uncomfortably rapid pace — too much commitment too soon.

以令人不舒服的速度推进恋爱关系——太快做出太多承诺。
Hacer avanzar una relación a un ritmo incómodamente rápido — demasiado compromiso demasiado pronto.
恋愛関係を不快なほど急速に進めること——早すぎるコミットメント。
관계를 불편할 정도로 빠르게 진전시키는 것 — 너무 이른 헌신.

Moving too fast is the opposite of taking it slow. It means rushing through relationship stages — saying 'I love you' on the second date, wanting to move in after a month, or planning a wedding after three months. It's a common red flag in American dating culture and a frequent reason people give for ending relationships.

Moving too fast是taking it slow的反面。意思是急速跳过恋爱关系的各个阶段——第二次约会就说'我爱你'、交往一个月就想同居、或者三个月就筹备婚礼。这在美国约会文化中是一个常见的红旗信号,也是人们结束关系时常说的原因之一。
'Moving too fast' (ir demasiado rápido) es lo opuesto a ir despacio. Significa precipitarse en las etapas de una relación: decir 'te quiero' en la segunda cita, querer irse a vivir juntos al mes, o planear una boda a los tres meses. Es una señal de alarma común en la cultura de citas estadounidense y una de las razones más frecuentes que la gente da para poner fin a una relación.
「急ぎすぎ」は「ゆっくり進める」の反対。恋愛のステージを駆け抜けてしまうこと——2回目のデートで「愛してる」と言ったり、1ヶ月で同棲を持ちかけたり、3ヶ月で結婚を計画したり。アメリカのデート文化ではよくある危険信号で、別れの理由として頻繁に挙げられる。
Moving too fast는 taking it slow의 반대다. 관계 단계를 급하게 넘기는 것을 말한다 — 두 번째 데이트에 '사랑해'라고 하거나, 한 달 만에 동거하고 싶어 하거나, 석 달 만에 결혼을 계획하는 것. 미국 데이트 문화에서 흔한 위험 신호이며, 관계를 끝내는 이유로 자주 언급된다.

Examples

  1. He said he loved me on our third date. That's moving way too fast.
    第三次约会他就说爱我了。也太快了吧。
    Me dijo que me quería en nuestra tercera cita. Eso es ir demasiado rápido.
    3回目のデートで愛してるって言われた。それ、急ぎすぎでしょ。
    세 번째 데이트에서 사랑한다고 했어. 너무 빠른 거잖아.
  2. We were moving too fast, so I suggested we pump the brakes.
    我们进展太快了,所以我建议我们踩踩刹车。
    Íbamos demasiado rápido, así que sugerí que frenásemos un poco.
    進展が早すぎたから、ちょっとブレーキをかけようって提案したの。
    우리가 너무 빨리 가고 있어서 브레이크를 밟자고 제안했어.
  3. Every time I date someone new, my mom warns me not to move too fast.
    每次我跟新的人约会,我妈都提醒我不要太急。
    Cada vez que empiezo a salir con alguien nuevo, mi madre me advierte que no vaya demasiado rápido.
    新しい人と付き合うたびに、お母さんに急ぎすぎないようにって注意されるんだ。
    새로운 사람과 사귈 때마다 엄마가 너무 빨리 가지 말라고 경고하셔.

Pronunciation

Usage Guide

Context: dating advice, breakup explanations, relationship talks

Tone: concerned, cautionary

✓ Do Say

  • I think we're moving too fast.
    我觉得我们进展太快了。
    Creo que estamos yendo demasiado rápido.
    私たち、急ぎすぎだと思う。
    우리 너무 빨리 가는 것 같아.
  • She felt like things were moving too fast.
    她觉得事情发展得太快了。
    Ella sentía que las cosas iban demasiado rápido.
    彼女は進展が早すぎると感じてたみたい。
    그녀는 진전이 너무 빠르다고 느꼈어.

✗ Don't Say

  • 'You're moving too fast' can sting — say it gently and explain what pace feels right for you
    '你太急了'可能会让人受伤——要温和地说,并解释你觉得什么样的节奏合适
    'Vas demasiado rápido' puede doler — dilo con delicadeza y explica qué ritmo te parece adecuado
    「急ぎすぎだよ」はきつく聞こえることもある——優しく伝えて、自分にとって心地よいペースを説明しよう
    '너무 빨리 가고 있어'라는 말은 상처가 될 수 있다 — 부드럽게 말하고 자신에게 편한 속도가 어떤 건지 설명하자

Origin & History

The concept of relationship pacing entered mainstream American discourse through 1980s-90s advice columns (Dear Abby, Ann Landers) and self-help books. The specific phrase 'moving too fast' became a dating red-flag keyword in the 2000s through shows like 'Sex and the City' and later through dating app culture and relationship podcasts like 'Call Her Daddy' and 'U Up?' in the 2010s-20s, where it is one of the most commonly cited reasons for ending early-stage relationships.

Cultural Context

Era: Modern

Generation: All ages

Social background: Universal

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